American humorist and advice columnist
Daniel M. Lavery
[1]
[2] (born Mallory Ortberg ,
[3] November 28, 1986)
[4] is an American author and editor. He is known for having co-founded the website
The Toast , and written the books Texts from Jane Eyre (2014), The Merry Spinster (2018), and
Something That May Shock and Discredit You (2020). Lavery wrote
Slate 's "
Dear Prudence "
advice column from 2016 to 2021. From 2022 to 2023, he hosted a
podcast on Slate titled Big Mood, Little Mood . In 2017, Lavery started a paid e-mail newsletter on
Substack titled Shatner Chatner ,
[5]
[6] renamed to The Chatner in 2021.
[7]
Born Mallory Ortberg, Lavery grew up in northern Illinois and then San Francisco,
[3] one of three children of the
evangelical Christian author and former
Menlo Church pastor
John Ortberg and Nancy Ortberg, who is also a pastor and the CEO of Transforming the Bay with Christ.
[8]
[9] Lavery attended
Azusa Pacific University ,
[10] a private, evangelical Christian university in California. While a student, Lavery appeared on
Jeopardy! and finished in third place.
[11]
[12]
Lavery has credited the work of
Shirley Jackson and her novel
We Have Always Lived in the Castle , in particular, and
John Bunyan 's
The Pilgrim's Progress as influential.
[13]
Lavery wrote for
Gawker and
The Hairpin .
[14]
[15] Through this work, he met
Nicole Cliffe , with whom Lavery operated
The Toast , a feminist general interest web site,
[16] from July 2013 to July 2016.
[8]
Lavery was included in the 2015
Forbes
"30 under 30" list in the media category.
[17] On November 9, 2015,
Slate announced that he would take over the magazine's "
Dear Prudence " advice column from
Emily Yoffe .
[18] Lavery stopped writing the column in May 2021.
[19]
In 2017, Lavery launched Shatner Chatner , a paid e-mail newsletter on
Substack .
[5]
[6] On May 19, 2021, he accepted a
Substack Pro deal and shortened the newsletter's name to The Chatner .
[7]
Lavery's first book, Texts from Jane Eyre , was released in November 2014
[20]
[21] and became a
New York Times bestseller .
[22] The book was based on a column that he wrote first at The Hairpin , then continued at The Toast ,
[14] which imagines well-known literary characters exchanging text messages. The premise was inspired by a comments section thread on a piece Cliffe had written for
The Awl ; on Cliffe's review of
Gone With the Wind , a commentator wrote that his or her experience in the South was nearly identical to the novel "except everybody has cell phones". This prompted Lavery to imagine how
Scarlett O'Hara might have used a cell phone.
[23]
Rick and Morty Presents: Krombopulos Michael
Lavery's first comic
one-shot , entitled
Rick and Morty Presents: Krombopulos Michael , was published by
Oni Press on June 20, 2018, following the
Rick and Morty
character
of the same name .
[24]
A short story collection, The Merry Spinster: Tales of Everyday Horror (
Henry Holt , 2018), appeared in 2018.
[25]
[26] The book, Lavery's second release, was highly anticipated, with
Publishers Weekly ,
Bustle ,
The A.V. Club and
InStyle Australia included in their lists of forthcoming titles in 2018.
[27]
[28]
[29]
[30] The Merry Spinster reinvents fairy tales such as
Cinderella and
Beauty and the Beast ; in the
Los Angeles Times , Agatha French described his renderings as making the "stories both weirder and yet somehow more familiar".
[13]
Something That May Shock and Discredit You
Lavery's third book, a memoir entitled
Something That May Shock and Discredit You , was published in February 2020 by
Simon & Schuster .
[31] It was originally published as individual essays.
[32]
Lavery identifies as
queer .
[8] In February 2018, he spoke to
Autostraddle about the process of
gender transitioning while writing The Merry Spinster .
[33] The following month, Lavery was interviewed by
Heather Havrilesky in
New York magazine's The Cut about coming out as
transgender .
[34]
In November 2018, Lavery and his girlfriend,
Grace Lavery , an associate professor of English at
U.C. Berkeley
[35]
[36] and "the most followed transgender scholar in the world on social media" including Twitter and Instagram,
[37] announced their intention to marry.
[38] They were married on December 22, 2019.
[39]
[40]
^ Chatner, The Shatner.
"A Halloween Compendium From The DMO-L Archives" . www.shatnerchatner.com .
^ @evilmallelis (March 12, 2018).
"ok @CharoShane and I talked about breakfast and it was very exciting to 1. talk about breakfast and 2. bust out a sneak preview of the new name & shiny pronouns" . Twitter . Retrieved March 12, 2018 .
^
a
b Ortberg, Mallory.
"Have You Heard the One About the Religious Woman Who Stops Being Religious in College?" . Gawker . Retrieved March 17, 2018 .
^ @evilmallelis (November 28, 2017).
"IT IS MY THIRTY-FIRST BIRTHDAY AND I AM HAPPY" . Twitter .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved March 12, 2018 .
^
a
b Guthrie Weissman, Cale (December 1, 2017).
"The Toast's Mallory Ortberg Is Bringing Her Beloved Content Back–For A Price" . Fast Company. Retrieved January 12, 2018 .
^
a
b Benton, Joshua (December 1, 2017).
"Stratechery, but for jokes about Frasier: Mallory Ortberg tries the paid newsletter route" . Nieman Lab.
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved February 1, 2022 .
^
a
b Lavery, Daniel.
"Pivoting, Softly: Welcome To The Chatner" . The Chatner . Substack. Retrieved August 20, 2021 .
^
a
b
c Scoles, Sarah (June 13, 2017).
"Mallory Ortberg's Internet" . Motherboard .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved July 26, 2017 .
^ Anugrah, Kumar (May 13, 2013).
"Motherhood a 'Two-way Street' Former Willow Creek Pastor Shares" . The Christian Post . Retrieved March 13, 2018 .
^
"The Art of Commerce: Episode XXX: 'I wouldn't want to reassure my past self. "Keep panicking".' " . 0s&1s . September 29, 2015. Retrieved March 14, 2018 .
^
"J! Archive - Show #5816, aired 2009-12-21" . www.j-archive.com . Retrieved May 6, 2019 .
^
"J! Archive - Mallory Ortberg" . www.j-archive.com . Retrieved May 6, 2019 .
^
a
b French, Agatha (March 8, 2018).
"Mallory Ortberg on the remixed fairy tales of her new book 'The Merry Spinster' " . Los Angeles Times .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved March 13, 2018 .
^
a
b Galo, Sarah (November 3, 2014).
"Mallory Ortberg: 'If men show up that's great, but we don't need them' " . The Guardian . Retrieved November 11, 2014 .
^ Kott, Lidia Jean (November 3, 2014).
"Mallory Ortberg And Her (Small) Media Empire" . The Huffington Post . Retrieved November 11, 2014 .
^ Lange, Maggie (October 30, 2014).
"Mallory Ortberg on the Great Jerks of Literature" . New York Magazine .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved November 11, 2014 .
^
"2015 30 under 30: Media" .
Forbes .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved January 31, 2015 .
^ Turner, Julia (November 9, 2015).
"Meet Our New Dear Prudence Columnist" . Slate .
ISSN
1091-2339 . Retrieved July 26, 2017 .
^ Smith, Ben (April 11, 2021).
"Why We're Freaking Out About Substack" . The New York Times .
ISSN
0362-4331 . Retrieved April 13, 2021 .
^
Ulaby, Neda (November 10, 2014).
"If Literature's Great Characters Could Text, They'd Charm Your Pantalets Off" . NPR .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved November 11, 2014 .
^ Busis, Hillary.
"Breaking Big: Mallory Ortberg, author of 'Texts from Jane Eyre' " . Entertainment Weekly .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved November 11, 2014 .
^
"Best Sellers, December 2014" . New York Times . December 2014. Retrieved December 11, 2014 .
^ Cohen, Rebecca (November 8, 2014).
"If Scarlett O'Hara could sext" . Mother Jones .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved January 18, 2018 .
^ Davison, Joshua (June 19, 2018).
"Advance Review: Rick and Morty Presents #2 Krombopulos Michael – Far More Endearing than Expected" .
Inverse . Retrieved June 19, 2018 .
^
"Kirkus Star THE MERRY SPINSTER by Mallory Ortberg" . Kirkus Reviews. November 28, 2017.
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved February 8, 2018 .
^
"Fiction Book Review: The Merry Spinster by Mallory Ortberg. Holt, $17 trade paper (208p) ISBN 978-1-250-11342-9" . Publishers Weekly . November 20, 2017.
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved February 8, 2018 .
^
"The Most Anticipated Books of Spring 2018" . Publishers Weekly . January 23, 2018.
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved March 13, 2018 .
^ Ragsdale, Melissa.
"12 Books Every Harry Potter Fan NEEDS To Read In 2018" . Bustle .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved March 13, 2018 .
^ PenzeyMoog, Caitlin; Adamczyk, Laura (January 4, 2018).
"The 10 books we can't wait to read in 2018" . The A.V. Club .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved March 13, 2018 .
^ Burke, Tina (March 2018).
"8 Books You Absolutely Have To Read This Month" . InStyle Australia . Archived from
the original on March 13, 2018. Retrieved March 13, 2018 .
^ Canfield, David (July 2, 2019).
"Exclusive preview: Daniel Mallory Ortberg returns with new memoir-in-essays" . Entertainment Weekly.
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved July 3, 2019 .
^ Grady, Constance (February 21, 2020).
"No writer does "weirdly specific yet relatable" better than Daniel Mallory Ortberg" . Vox .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved October 14, 2020 .
^
"Mal Ortberg's Creepy New Book is Coming Out and Mal Is Too" . Autostraddle . February 28, 2018.
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved March 1, 2018 .
^ Havrilesky, Heather (March 13, 2018).
" 'Mallory Is Not Gone': Daniel Mallory Ortberg on Coming Out As Trans" .
The Cut . Retrieved March 16, 2018 .
^
"UC Berkeley Department of English" . english.berkeley.edu .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved January 11, 2019 .
^ Lavery, Grace.
"this transsexual got tenure, baby!!!" . Twitter .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved April 19, 2019 .
^ Chandler, Mark (November 6, 2020).
"Daunt wins four-way battle for Lavery memoir" .
The Bookseller .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved February 5, 2021 .
^ Ortberg, Daniel (November 29, 2018).
"i'm terribly happy and my pants are muddy - the road to yosemite was flooded so i proposed by the side of the road. she's my best girl" . @danielortberg .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved January 11, 2019 .
^
"Daniel M. Lavery on Instagram: "married Grace so tired so good photo by @christina_gracet" " . Instagram .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved January 10, 2020 .
^ Tucker, Christina (January 16, 2020).
"Grace Lavery and Daniel M. Lavery's Wedding Photos Are Pure Queer Joy" . Autostraddle .
Archived from the original on February 15, 2021. Retrieved February 25, 2020 .